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So we can see the result of a months dieting and exercise. Below is the route I take whilst walking with my son. It's 10.4 km and I can do it in an hour and a half.

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The goals have shifted. The goal weight is now 95 kg. Someone thought 80 kg as being a goal...I'd be physically unwell at that weight.
I have modified the diet to include lean meat such as fish and kangaroo. I also allow myself a reward once a week...licorice. Uni recommences next week and I will be using that to walk 30 km + a week. The weights I am lifting, the dumbells weight 12.5 kg each and at the moment I am doing 10 lifts, tricep curls and bicep curls with the number going up each week by one. The absolute maximum will be 50.

Relationship Advice...or How to meet the Woman of Your Dreams

Meeting women or men isn't hard. I have Aspergers for gods sake and have still managed to land myself a certifiably hot wife half my age.
I suggest that you write down what it is that you want from or in a relationship.
It makes serious sense to actually list what is important to you as a person, your values, your goals, children a musthave or not. For a start taking the time to actually discover what is important to you in both the long and short term won't hurt anyone a jot. I meditate on a daily basis, so I guess introspection is very much something I'm into. But take a long, hard look at yourself, discover what it is that makes you tick and then write it down, put it into a spreadsheet. Leave it for a while, then re-read it. If after about 6 months of thinking about these things the list is fundamentally the same then there is a very good chance that this is what you are about as a person.
So when I began looking for my wife I mentally wrote this list (NB: I have never met an Aspergers who was at all unsure about what it was that they were as a person or where they wanted to be. We may lack the diagnosis of Aspergers, but we never are anything other than completely confident of what we want in life.)

1. High sex drive.
2. Must be at least my intellectual equal...I was dying to have a real conversation with someone.
3. Must be younger than me, not much older than 35...still vaguely considering the option of children.
4. Must be Asian/Non-Anglo....haven't really found all that many Anglo-Saxon women that attractive over the years. Lots of seriously fuckable Mediterraneans, Indians, Southeast and Eastern Asians and African women, but vanishingly few Anglos rang my bell.
5. Non nagging.
6. Non Depressive,

With these things firmly in mind, I went looking. I was patient. For five years every woman I met was considered as a possibility. I never really dated anyone, but I did get a sense of them as people. Eventually...five years later, I met my wife. I asked questions, she obliged me to wait for almost 8 weeks before having so much as a kiss, by which time I was seriously in love with her. We took the time to get to know each other...it turns out she had her list as well.
Our son is 14 months old.

Toddler Property Laws

1. If I like it, it's MINE!
2. If it's in my hands, it's MINE!
3. If I can take it from you, it's MINE!
4. If I had it a little while ago, it's MINE!
5. If it's MINE, it must never appear to be yours in anyway.
6. If I'm doing or building something all the pieces are MINE!
7. If it looks like it's mine, it's MINE!
8. If I think it's mine, it's MINE!

Don't forget your meditation

Yep I said meditation. There's a t where the c might be.
I use Operation Stud Muffin in my meditation. I make the diet and  the exercise gifts to myself and my family. This way the discipline becomes material for Caganussati. Caganussati helps Metta towards myself to arise.
Lets face it, turning around an entire lifes momentum is fucking hard work. I'm finding even just tweeking it to be a source of soreness and cravings. Because it is so hard, make it a gift. You are improving things for yourself and those you care most about. You are giving them more of you in the form of increased life expectancy. As the weight goes down and or the muscles come ever more clearer in the mirror, be happy with this.
Being happy with and liking yourself is the precursor to Metta.
Every time you look at that chocolate biscuit or that beer that is just calling your name and decline to listen, that is a gift to yourself. Every centimetre that your waist shrinks that is a gift to your heart. Easing off on the fatty meats is a gift to your pancreas. Leaving out the high protein foods is a gift to your kidney.
Getting into the pants of that hottie you want to fuck...isn't that the real reason why you're sweating your ass off and doing shit that you never thought you would?

Now, my friend, waking up beside someone built like our dear Deserea above, now that is a serious gift. It should also be some serious motivation. We can dress this up in all the Sensitive New Age Guy dribble we want, but the bottom line is that I'm doing this because a) I want to live longer and b) I want to have more sex. Preferably with someone who looks like Deserea or Natalia

Not that my wife

is hard to look at. It's that she accepts that I'm an Earth sign in both the Asian and Western Zodiacs (Taurus and Snake) and isn't fussed if I have a FWB.
Metta or Loving-kindness to those of you who haven't read my other blog has ten benefits and one of them is being more attractive. Being someone who is gentle, caring, kind, happy and forgiving does help out your sex life. Angry people age quicker than those of us who aren't. So being very chill and happy actually improves your looks. Also being genuinely interested in someone improves your chances of getting into their pants.As I said to one dimwit (Hello Peter Alexander who lives in Forest Hill,Vic www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100001028196098&sk=info) it isn't about how fascinating you think you are, it's about how you find the other person. Metta simply makes you more pleasant to be near.
So practice meditation as part of your life. The combination of a drive towards a leaner you and a devotion to Metta won't hurt at all. You wonderfully easy on the eye Metta adept you.

When in Doubt...Exercise!!!

It really is just that simple. If you want the biggest con in the modern world, it would most likely be the Weight Loss Industry. That you pay for something that can be completely free is just plain wrong! Those protein shakes

are BAD for you. Unless you drink literally litres of water to flush the nitrogen out of your system you end up with this:

 which is a diseased kidney. Protein is nitrogen based and you need to remove the excess nitrogen from your body. Urea...the yellow stuff in urine is nitrogen based. So whilst the shakes can and do contribute to muscle building,  like any construction site sooner or later you have to clean out the waste or things will turn very bad for you. And this means water...a lot of water.
You are much better off sourcing protein from a normal diet. Your body will tell you how much protein it needs so if you experience a craving for foods high in protein, then listen to the message you are getting.

The very first place to begin losing weight is between your ears. About 10 years ago when I was 130 kg, I had an epiphany...one of those moments when you stop dead in your tracks, go "Oh Fuck!" and then feel really stupid. I realised that FAT people were the ones sitting in front of the TV eating shit and SKINNY people were the ones out walking, cycling and swimming. If I changed my mental identity from FAT to SKINNY I would be doing what skinny people did.
So you decide you are now a skinny person and begin doing what skinny people do....you know what they do, you've seen them often enough whilst driving your car...and that's what you begin doing.

We all make mistakes and have lapses.

It is the start that matters.

But once you get into the swing of things you will find that a momentum builds.

And trust me, once things in the bedroom begin improving and you just generally begin feeling better, you will see rewards. I noticed that my blood pressure fell. I remember my ex-wife and I used to patronise the local fish & chip shop pretty regularly. My cholesterol was high...7.8 I think. Once I gave up fish & chips my cholesterol fell every month for the next 18 months.

Mind you, in retrospect, I think it was about this time that the marriage acquired one of those things that contributed to its eventual demise. When I'm fit & healthy, I'm horny...well hornier. Not only was I wanting more in bed, I was also more likely to get it. The problem was my ex wasn't the sort to go giving it. I dropped 20 kg in a year and a half....I think. I've kept the weight off mainly by being an active person. Operation Stud Muffin is the plan to finally lose those last 10 kg that have been sitting there for about 10 years now. Actually I don't mind being 110 kg, I do mind being fat & sloppy...which I'm not, I just want to look in a manner that causes envy in men and oestrogen surges in women.
Forty-six used to be old. It doesn't have to be and I know that pursuing Operation Stud Muffin will only have positive outcomes for me.
Now having walked 10 km in an hour & a half, I think I will do a weights workout.
One last offering:  
ONLY EAT WHEN YOU ARE HUNGRY!

Operation Stud Muffin

Basically the plan is to become this

by December 7...the wifes 23rd birthday.
Two weeks in a Buddhist monastery often eating only one meal a day didn't hurt at all. I came home with just that little bit more muscle definition.
The strategy now is to reduce the calorie intake and up the exercise. The biggest problem is actually the wife who is experiencing difficulties understanding the strategy. Patience is needed when explaining that I really do just want to eat about half to a third of what I have previously. I'm taking iron supplements...no point in making myself sick. I am also eating a lot of Ryvita http://caloriecount.about.com/calories-ryvita-crispbread-original-i73208
which as you can see is mostly fibre. I see precious little point in spending the next five or so months any hungrier than I absolutely need to be. You need to drink lots of water when eating this much fibre or the hatch will slam shut..and being constipated just isn't fun.
The exercise will be anything I can manage in addition to a weights programme. Vigorous sex is great exercise, so is the previously mentioned frisbee throwing, walking whilst carrying a bag full of books for Uni and pushing a pram with my son in it. One of the great thing about kids is that they gain weight.
There is another benefit from losing this weight...it's cheap! Your food costs fall immediately. There is the simple fact that the foods that help you lose weight are actually cheaper than the crap that's full of sugar and preservatives. Ryvita is about $2 a packet of 30 slices, the soybeans were about $4 for a can, the tahini $13 a kg and lemons are about 30 cents each. This will make up at least ten meals. So you can do the math...for less than a dollar a meal you will lose weight and still keep your protein and iron levels up.
My planned diet is:
Minimal amount of caffeine and NO added sugar.
Breakfast
Half a cup of Oat Porridge with almonds and dried fruit. Or toast with peanut butter. Boiled egg (s) with the Ryvita
 Fruit.
Lunch
If at all: 4 slices of Ryvita with a hummus derived from chickpea or soybean.  Roast veggies (pumpkin, beetroot,carrot, capscicum) added.
Fruit of some variety.
 About half a litre of water.
Dinner
If at all.   Ryvita with a salad of leafy greens, vegetables. Or a Quinoa http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Quinoa salad with the veggies.
 Beer will be a rare event.
Lunch and dinner will be interchangeable. There is the plan to actually miss meals. Breakfast is non-negotiable. This is why it gets the vast majority of the iron and protein. Fill up your metabolic tank in the morning and then let your metabolism run all day. You will notice that skipping dinner actually returns breakfast to its original meaning of  break fast.
If a large meal or beer is had, then a meal (lunch or dinner) must be skipped the next day.
This isn't rocket science. Reduce the carbohydrates that run your metabolism, maintain your protein and vitamin intake, increase your fibre intake in order to stay full and then see the fat fall away.

Soybean

You can create a Hummus type dip from Soybeans.
I used 1 440 gram can
2 tablespoons of Tahini
~ 1 Tablespoon of lemon juice.
~ 1/4 cup of water

Pulse in the blender until mixture is smooth. Enjoy!
The lemon juice is absolutely essential. Ascorbic Acid aka Vitamin C helps metabolise the iron in the beans. I use a lot of lemon juice...I like the taste.
I ate it with Ryvita, some fruit and a good drink of water.

Weight Loss

http://mpegmedia.abc.net.au/rn/podcast/2011/07/hrt_20110711.mp3

This is a very interesting audio from the ABC's Health Report Programme